Healing: Expanding From Individual to Collective

When I first started my healing journey, I read a lot of books: personal empowerment, quantum physics, manifesting and co-creating with the Universe.

I loved the thought of being one of the many pieces making up the Universe. Both one drop in the ocean and “the ocean in a drop” as Rumi says.

However, what I found was missing from a lot of these visions of the individual in the “here and now” working on becoming better individuals on a day-to-day level, was the emotional and relational aspect.

No matter how solitary and/or independent we are as adults, our experiences with (or without) other human beings as children, born fragile and innocent into this world, shaped who we are.

The way I experienced it, a fundamental part in my healing was acknowledging the wounds I had inside of me.

• It wasn’t just working on clearing and protecting my energy.
• It wasn’t just believing that I was part of a connected macrocosm.
• It wasn’t just studying the “here and now” aspect of things.

It was above all, acknowledging my past wounds and noticing:

• how they impacted my beliefs around myself and others,
• how I showed up in my everyday life, including in my business and my relationships,
• how they impacted the lens through which I saw my present, and
• how they impacted what I believed was possible for my future.

When I decided to write my book, I knew I had to look at all the stories that had shaped me.

Back then, I didn’t know WHY, I just felt the irrepressible URGE coming from deep within to do it.

Like a cat dry heaving to get a hairball out, I knew I had to get my stories OUT.

I can see now how that was a part of my healing.

Gabor Maté says there is a tremendous amount of energy spent in looking away from what hurt us in the past, robbing us a more serene and fulfilled present.

It’s like having a broken ankle but instead of healing it, choosing to use crutches as a PERMANENT solution or just pretend nothing’s broken, ignore the pain and keep going.

Your inner wounds are painful and I get that you may not want to go pry.

You’ve developed beliefs or coping mechanisms that protect you from being hurt again. And they somehow create a twisted sense of safety.

Even if they shut you out of experiencing what you deeply crave for, or keep you doing things in order to feel loved and appreciated and leave you feeling like there’s always something missing.

You don’t need to unpack everything all once. You can do it at your own pace. You can reach out and get support to make it easier. And you don’t even need to dive back in and relive the pain, you just need to ACKNOWLEDGE that it’s there.

Believe me, there is freedom in doing so.

While my healing journey has had many faces – talk therapy, energy healing, EMDR, osteopathy, it was always paired with writing as my support therapy.

Because writing gives me an opportunity to give voice to the narratives in my head, and to PAUSE and look at them.

As I look at my words, I acknowledge my stories, my wounds, my feelings and my emotions.

My desires and longings, and the fears and beliefs standing in the way.

In doing so, I give myself a chance to heal.

And so can you.❤️

I’d love to help you use writing as a support to your healing journey. If you’d like to know more, let’s talk.